What does success mean to you?
A woman’s drive can be unparalleled! Piecing a day together like an impossible jigsaw puzzle: making meals, juggling school pickups and drop-offs, too many appointments, working, eating right, exercising, time for yourself, time for your partner, walking the dog, feeding the cat, the list is potentially endless. And despite the labors of Hercules being crammed into every minute of the day, there’s always a bit of self-doubt that seems to be inescapable.
Guilt over working when you should be relaxing and playing with the kids, fielding calls at work about charities and memberships, skipping the gym to take a pet to the vet… where does it stop?
Well we think its time you took a deep breath and did the following:
1st step back and say, “wow” to everything you make-work in a day/week/month/year!
2nd call “time-out” and make sure you’re on track. This doesn’t mean are the reports going to be handed in on time or is dinner about to burn, but are you where you need to be, for you?
Take the time to think about these steps and remember, if you can do everything in your “normal” day and still be here to tell the tale, then you’re more than strong enough to change what needs changing!
Follow these four steps and ease the unwarranted feelings of guilt and disappointment!
1. Passions are what you crave, love and find fulfilling. If these aren’t dominating your life, you need to change the balance. Identify what these passions are and if you’re not doing enough of them, start.
2. What does success mean to you? As a daughter, mother, wife, boss, employee and any other hat you might wear day-to-day. Identify this and make this your measuring stick. If this is on track you have NO reason to feel guilty.
3. Stop doing what you don’t like. Now, this doesn’t mean skipping-out on work or dumping the kids in day care and heading to the beach. But it does mean if you hate tennis, quit the social league you joined to impress people. Simply stop the unnecessary things in your life that don’t fit with points 1, 2 and 4.
4. Your environment matters, if you are an art lover who sits in a cubicle all day and comes home to a house with bare walls, you’re not going to be satisfied. Change this. No matter what your passion is, let it engulf you!
